Joan Toner

Died: March 6, 2014
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Joan M. Toner, loving wife, mother and sister, adored nana, beloved aunt, devoted friend, and dedicated servant of God, passed peacefully to join the angels and stars in heaven on March 6th after a brief illness. Joanie’s deep faith, caring spirit and enormous sense of fun brought boundless comfort and unending joy to countless lives. She will be fondly remembered and sorely missed. Born in Queens New York to Josephine and Robert Heimerle, Joan is survived by brothers Bob and Marie Heimerle, and Bill and Pat Heimerle, and sister Kathryn Hampel. She was predeceased by her husband Jim, daughter Maureen, and son-in-law Michael Cook. Joan will be remembered with great love by her children Mary Ellen Cook, James Toner, Kathy Toner and Wendy Wheeler, Susan and Todd Hylton, Patricia Goudarzi, Thomas Toner and Marshall Pearson and her most beloved grandchildren Tim McFillin, Mary McFillin, and Zachary Cook. She will also be fondly remembered by her many nieces and nephews, an enormous circle of friends and the countless people whose lives she enriched with her humor, compassion and generosity. From an early age, Joan’s special relationship to Jesus and the Virgin Mother was evident; indeed it was at a Legion of Mary meeting where she met the highly eligible bachelor who became the great love of her life and her husband of 52 years. Jim and Joan shared a profound Catholic faith and a desire for a large family, and soon they were creating happy memories as they raised their seven children. As a mother, Joan never tired organizing special birthday parties, Easter basket hunts, amazing Christmas surprises, outings to the pool, special haircuts and 1-1 shopping outings, and chauffeuring her kids to an unending series of sporting and school events. With four little ones and one on the way, Joan and Jim moved to Endwell, finding the home base from which she would establish her most enduring friendships and a life-long service to her parish, Church of the Holy Family. Over the years Joan served as a lay minister, Parish Council member, gave solace to many through pastoral care, and provided support through the prayer network and regular vigils at the adoration chapel. Joan cherished the dear friends she made through this work and in particular loved her Sunday night prayer meetings and weekly Bible study groups. After raising her family, Joan combined her adventurous spirit and her religious faith through pilgrimages to the Holy Land, Rome, Medjugorje and California, where she visited the Franciscan missions. Whether visiting her sister in Florida or her daughter in Honduras, Joan exhibited unflagging curiosity and joie de vivre as a traveler. Being “Nana” was one of Joan’s greatest roles and joys! She loved finding special moments and gifts to share with Tim, Mary and Zach, whether celebrating Christmas at Nana’s or playing ping pong in her basement. “Aunt Joan” was a favored aunt among her many nieces and nephews. Especially in recent years, she delighted in summers on Long Island with her Heimerle boys and their parents, her brother Bill and sister-in-law Aunt Pat. She often laughed about her adventures with frozen drinks and golf carts with her sister Kathryn in Florida, and she never missed an opportunity to chat with her older brother Bob and his wife Marie. Joan’s abundant life could fill volumes. When it was her time to join God, Joan showed great courage, and with grace and dignity showed the way. She will continue to inspire her family and friends through her legacy. Her family would like to thank the incredibly caring professionals on the 5th floor of Wilson Hospital and the staff at Hospice, for making her few final days of illness peaceful. In lieu of flowers, Joan requested that friends and family make donations to their favorite charity, in her honor.
A Memorial Mass will be celebrated Tuesday 10:30 am at Church of the Holy Family, 3600 Phyllis Street, Endwell. The family will receive friends at the Allen Memorial Home, 511-513 East Main Street, Endicott, Monday from 4-7 pm.

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Date: Monday, March 10, 2014

Time: 4:00 pm - 7:00 pm


Service Information

Date: Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Time: 10:30 am -

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3600 Phyllis Street, Endwell, NY, 13760

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The Klarmann Family posted on 3/7/14

Our prayers are with your family at this time. We will miss not seeing Joanie walking through our back yard going to church or to be able to look out the window and see her in the front yard and get a friendly wave from Joanie. She was a great friend and neighbor and we will miss her deeply. God has a very special angel with him now. Ann and Mille Klarmann

 

Beltran family posted on 3/14/14

Our heartfelt condolences to Joan's family. We are sadden to hear of your loss. May you find solace in the love and memories shared together and may God comfort you with the words at Revelation 21:4,5. Happily we can look forward to the day God promises to reunite us with loved ones by the resurrection as stated at John 5:28,29. May this thought bring you some comfort in the days ahead.

 

Eliana Torretta posted on 3/12/14

Dear Pat, My thoughts are with you and your large family. I can see your mother smiling at all of you... Love, Eliana

 

Orazio posted on 3/11/14

feel me close to you in this tough time Orazio

 

Francesco Ilgrande posted on 3/10/14

Dear Pat, I'm very sorry about your loss and I am with you in your sorrow. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy. Francesco

 

Dennis Farrell posted on 3/9/14

Though I only met her once or twice I know that she must have been a special woman to produce a daughter with as amany special qualities as her daughter Susan. May she rest in peace.

 

Dennis Farrell posted on 3/9/14

She must have been a special woman to produce a daughter with as many special qualities as her daughter Susan. May she rest in peace.

 

Dennis Farrell posted on 3/9/14

She must have been a special woman to produce a daughter with as many special qualities as her daughter Susan. May she rest in peace.

 

Bernadette Catalana posted on 3/9/14

Always smiling. Always sweet. What a lovely woman. "Mrs Toner" was so generous and gentle with everyone. My favorite story is of her praying with the "beautiful movie stars" in Washington D C! Mrs Toner made everyone feel special, including me. Every time I saw her she would compare me to a noteworthy person - making me know I was a noteworthy person to her. She was so kind and always found good in each situation, even those most dire. She and Mr Toner were quite different but perfectly suited to each other. And perfectly suited to lead their family in the ways of love. I am so grateful for Jim and Joan Toner-- Exemplars of great parenting and good lives, lived for others.

 

Bernadette Catalana posted on 3/9/14

Always smiling. Always sweet. What a lovely woman. "Mrs Toner" was so generous and gentle with everyone. My favorite story is of her praying with the "beautiful movie stars" in Washington D C! Mrs Toner made everyone feel special, including me. Every time I saw her she would compare me to a noteworthy person - making me know I was a noteworthy person to her. She was so kind and always found good in each situation, even those most dire. She and Mr Toner were quite different but perfectly suited to each other. And perfectly suited to lead their family in the ways of love. I am so grateful for Jim and Joan Toner-- Exemplars of great parenting and good lives, lived in the service of others. > ______________________________________________________________________

 

Bernadette Catalana posted on 3/9/14

Always smiling. Always sweet. What a lovely woman. "Mrs Toner" was so generous and gentle with everyone. My favorite story is of her praying with the "beautiful movie stars" in Washington D C! Mrs Toner made everyone feel special, including me. Every time I saw her she would compare me to a noteworthy person - making me know I was a noteworthy person to her. She was so kind and always found good in each situation, even those most dire. She and Mr Toner were quite different but perfectly suited to each other. And perfectly suited to lead their family in the ways of love. I am so grateful for Jim and Joan Toner-- Exemplars of great parenting and good lives, lived in the service of others. > ______________________________________________________________________

 

Lisa Laney posted on 3/8/14

Knowing her lovely daughter Pat I can only guess she was an amazing women and loved by many. She leaves behind a legacy of loving children and friends. We send our love to Pat and the Toner family. I am blessed to have a friend from this family. Love and deepest sympathy, From Lisa and Radford Laney

 

Margie Naro Suchyta posted on 3/8/14

Heaven is rejoicing after receiving Joan Toner home. I have never met a more sweet, gentle caring soul in my life. I will always remember and try to emulate her joy in all things. My love to all the Toner family. I will miss my Joanie hugs! Margie Naro

 

Susan Stern posted on 3/8/14

I was able to enjoy several days with Joan and entire Toner family this past January. Joan was so happy and full of life. We all had so many laughs and created beautiful memories. The Toner family is so lucky to have had such a wonderful matriarch. I am lucky to have known her. My thoughts and prayers are with the Toner family as I know Joan will be missed. Rest in Peace.

 

Andrea Taggart posted on 3/8/14

I hardly know where to begin. Mrs. Toner was like a second mother to me. Even with seven of her own children, she never hesitated to set an extra place at dinner for me after I made the long hike from Larch Circle to Kemp Drive (which seemed like miles back then.) When it came time for me to move to NC in 1979, she was the one who taught me how to spell "Charlotte." She was always so patient, even in the chaos of a pre-teen and teen-age home. Always calm. Always joyful. I loved to have her wrap me in a hug. I wish I could be there to hug all of you now...xoxo Andrea

 

The Klarmann Family posted on 3/7/14

Your family is in our prayers at this sad time. Joanie will be very missed by us. We will miss seeing her walking though our back yard on her way to church or looking out the front window and seeing Joanie, get a big smile and a wave back. Joanie was a good friend and super neighbor. God certainly has a very special angel with him now. Millie and Ann Klarmann

 

Patti Pratt posted on 3/14/14

I am missing my VERY best friend, Joanie. She was the most loving friend to me. Anyone who met her, even for a brief moment, was blessed because of the love and warmth she gave to each person. She was trustworthy with anything you told her and she loved unconditionally. To me and many others she was a Saint here on earth giving love and hope to everyone. Life is not the same without her but I do know that she is with me in spirit.

 

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