Norman J. O’Neil, 59, was unexpectedly called home to the Lord on Friday, March 3rd, 2023. He is predeceased by his father, Edward M. O’Neil Sr. and his brother, Edward Mark O’Neil II. Norm is survived by the love of his life for 35 years, his wife, Wendy (Sims) O’Neil; his beloved children, who wereContinue Reading
Norman J. O’Neil, 59, was unexpectedly called home to the Lord on Friday, March 3rd, 2023. He is predeceased by his father, Edward M. O’Neil Sr. and his brother, Edward Mark O’Neil II. Norm is survived by the love of his life for 35 years, his wife, Wendy (Sims) O’Neil; his beloved children, who were his pride and joy, Nathaniel O’Neil, Paige O’Neil and fiancé Adam Gryziec, Tara O’Neil-Floyd and husband, William Floyd, and Dylan O’Neil and significant other Taylor Hettinger; his mother, Patricia O’Neil; sister and brother-in-law, Maureen and Terrence Bocinski and their sons, Mitchell and Brenden; his father and mother-in-law, John and Cheryl Sims, brothers-inlaw, Anthony (Joy) Sims, Timothy (Javier) Sims-Davila, Andrew (Camiel) Sims, sister-in-law, Audrey (Todd) Rozell; his nieces and nephews, John, Jacob, Joseph, Joshua, Piper, and Peyton; as well as many cherished cousins and lifelong friends. Norm was born in Endwell, NY and graduated from Union Endicott High School, class of 1982. He graduated from Mohawk Valley Community College, Utica, NY with a degree in criminal justice. Norm gained his exceptional carpentry skills working with Zunic and Rose Construction, until he began his career with the New York State Police as a Trooper. During his 31 years of service, he was promoted to Investigator. Norm distinguished himself in various specialized units, including the Underwater Recovery Team that assisted in the TWA flight 800 recovery operation. He was awarded several meritorious accolades, including, two-time recipient of the Superintendent Commendation Award, Trooper of the Year, and Investigator of the Year. After his retirement, he continued his law enforcement service for a short time as a Lieutenant in the Owego Police Department. He was selected to serve as a Court Security Officer for the U.S. Marshals Service, where he worked at the Binghamton Federal Court House. Norm was a member of Church of the Holy Family and was active in their Holy Name Society. He was a softball Coach for Endicott Youth Softball, Volleyball Coach for Catholic Youth Organization, Volunteer firefighter with O.L. Davis Fire Company, and a member of the Knights of Columbus. Additionally, he earned his 1st degree black belt in Aiki-jujutsu, inspiring several family members to pursue martial arts. Norm was an avid outdoorsman who loved golfing (three-time Hole-in-One Club), hunting, fishing, snowmobiling, boating, spending time at the Bracklebrook’s Sportsman Club, “The Eddie O” Fishing Camp, and being in the Genesee Red-Eye Fan Club. He enjoyed spending time with his family at the beach, Disney World, and Page’s Pond. Norm could always be found lending a helping hand and compassionate heart to anyone he encountered. He made time for you. He was always volunteering and he used his many talents to make others’ lives easier. Norm was a humble, well-respected, admirable man, who lived his faith. He worked hard and could be depended upon and trusted in every situation. He was a devoted husband, father, son, brother, uncle, neighbor, and friend who will be deeply missed and dearly remembered.
A Funeral Mass for Norm will be held on Saturday at 10 AM at Church of the Holy Family, 3600 Phyllis Street, Endwell. Burial will be in Calvary Cemetery, Johnson City. The family will receive friends on Friday at Church of the Holy Family from 3-6 PM. In lieu of flowers, expressions of sympathy in Norm’s memory may be made to Mercy House of the Southern Tier, 212 North McKinley Avenue, Endicott, NY 13760. The family encourages you to share your memories of Norm on the Allen Memorial Home website.
John Tynan
left a message on March 23, 2023:
To Wendy and family, Mrs O and Maureen - extending my sincere condolences on the loss of Norm. It was an idyllic time spending my first 14 years of life growing up on Manhattan Drive. I have vivid memories of many wiffle ball games, street hockey, basketball and baseball games at Highland Park , home made mini bikes and of course long summer days at the "neighborhood" pool! I have 5 big brothers but I considered Norm to be one as well. He was kind and funny and I will always remember both he and Eddie fondly. Wishing you strength and God's peace in this time of loss.
David Lee
left a message on March 16, 2023:
Please except my condolences. I knew Norm from fishing on Lake Ontario. He was a gentleman and true sportsman in every sense of the word.
David Lee
Michael Kaminsky
left a message on March 12, 2023:
Norm was one of my best friends and fishing and golfing buddies. 3/3/23 was the worst day of my life, with all my heart I wish I could change the outcome of that day. My wife Shelly and I want to extend are most sincere and deepest condolences to all of Norms family, extended family and many, many, friends. We will miss him dearly, but he will always be in our thoughts, prayers and memory. RIP my friend!
Mark J Flint
left a message on March 10, 2023:
Marilyn Karlson
left a message on March 10, 2023:
I’m sorry for your loss. Norman was in my ninth grade math class. He was always polite, respectful , and pleasant. He had a great sense of humor and I enjoyed having him in my class. MK
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
Larissa Warholic and Family
left a message on March 10, 2023:
Michael & Karen Hastings
left a message on March 10, 2023:
Norm was a gift to all who had the honor of meeting him. From the minute you met him you knew that he was a man to be respected and trusted. The longer you knew him, the more that respect and trust grew. Your family's loss is unfathomable but one which we all share with you.
Frank R. Spendley
left a message on March 10, 2023:
Dear Pat, Wendy, Maureen and families: Our prayer, as we all mourn Norm's passing into New Life, is that the solace, abiding in Faith, will relieve your deep sorrow with the passing time. Then you will fully realize your boundless gratitude for Norm's lasting presence in your lives. G.K. Chesterton reminds us that, "Thanks is the highest form of thought, and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder."
We all can agree that Norm has earned that. Love, Frank Spendleyand all the Vermont Cousins
Anonymous
left a message on March 10, 2023:
Mark & Betty Jane Whiting
left a message on March 10, 2023:
We first met Norm when we were building our house next to his on Jade Drive in 2000.
He was always there to help out in anyway possible, especially if it meant using his snow blower.
He had a big heart for everyone. We don't remember ever hearing a single harsh word (even when he couldn't get the lawnmower started). If there was any problem, the conversation would end with: "It's all good."
We only wish we had more time . We will miss him dearly.
Mark & Betty Jane Whiting
Rod Cole
left a message on March 10, 2023:
May God comfort the O’Neil family, all of Norm’s friends and acquaintances as they heal from their tragic loss!!! I will never forget all of the times Norm had lent me a helping hand, not asking for anything in return!! He will, definitely, be missed!!
-Rod Cole
Pat, Gary, Christopher and Daniel Winn
left a message on March 10, 2023:
Sierra Lieback
left a message on March 9, 2023:
Saverio Longobardo
left a message on March 9, 2023:
The world lost a great man, son, husand, father and friend. Our hearts are broken... Sending all of our love. He will be truly missed.
Aunt Cathy, Tammy, Saverio & Saverio
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left a message on March 9, 2023:
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Paul and Sarah Hoban
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Sam McNeil and Jennie Oestreich
left a message on March 9, 2023:
From the very short time we knew Norm we became aware of how great of a man he was. He helped create a beautiful loving family and we will never forget his kindness. Our thoughts are with your family as you grieve this unimaginable loss. Remember that you are all loved by many. Take comfort in your memories of him as you go through this difficult time.
Sam McNeil and Jennie Oestreich
left a message on March 9, 2023:
From the very short time we knew Norm we became aware of how great of a man he was. He helped create a beautiful loving family and we will never forget his kindness. Our thoughts are with your family as you grieve this unimaginable loss. Remember that you are all loved by many. Take comfort in your memories of him as you go through this difficult time.
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
The Love family
left a message on March 9, 2023:
William H Standinger
left a message on March 9, 2023:
First to Norm's family, I am deeply sorry for your loss and I pray that the Lord gives you comfort as you deal with your grief.
I had the privilege of knowing Norm and working with him frequently over the years i was with NYSP. His sense of humor was amazing and it was always welcome!! I always enjoyed the time we were able to "do the right thing" when it was time to do it. No doubt he has been welcomed to the better place he is now at. May he forever rest in peace...William H Standinger III (retired NYSP 2011)
Christina Tucker
left a message on March 9, 2023:
Norm was my Senior Man back in '94. He was an amazing teacher, mentor and human being. He loved his family, friends and community so much. He would wave at everyone and taught me to do so. He will surely be missed...My condolences to his family.
Accede Mold & Tool
left a message on March 9, 2023:
Robert Pierce
left a message on March 9, 2023:
It’s with great sadness, that We learned of
Norm's passing. He was Truly a great man.
Our prayers are with Wendy and family.
Rp
Amanda Rose
left a message on March 9, 2023:
I think anyone who knew Norm, has a Norm Story.
As my last name would suggest, I am of the extended Rose family Norm worked for before going into law enforcement (Uncle Todd is…my uncle). He’s always been woven into the family fabric. So much so that I asked my father (Toby) the other day “how did Norm get in?” He’s just always been there. At high school and college graduations. Popping in at a family gathering. Inviting us over to watch the fireworks on the Fourth of July.
I now live in North Carolina and began traveling up to NY to visit my grandmother when she could no longer reliably travel south. The first time I made the trip, Gram called Norm (She actually called him Stormin’ Norman but I digress) and asked him if he would check with the state troopers in North Carolina, Virginia, West Virginia, Maryland, Pennsylvania, and New York to make sure that a) there was no weather I’d run into and b) no accidents. Norm agreed and called her back 20 minutes later. All was clear on the eastern front. Gram thanked him and awaited my arrival. I didn’t know about this until I’d pulled up to Nichols Notch. Gram seemed unphased at the lengths Norm went to to make sure I was going to be ok and to assuage any fears Gram might’ve had. “That’s just Norm.”
I’ve spoken with my cousins and uncle and parents over the last week and each one of them has had a “That’s just Norm” story.
He was a genuinely good person. Thoughtful and kind. He will be missed by my branch of the Rose tree and every other person Norm ever met.
Our deepest condolences to you, Wendy and kiddos.
Alicia, Nicole and Families
left a message on March 8, 2023:
Ronald Kavulich
left a message on March 8, 2023:
Norm worked for as a Trooper. He was a very dedicated person. He had that ability to relax a stressful situation with his ever present smile. He was not only a co worker but a friend. Prayers for you and family.
The Tynan Clan
left a message on March 8, 2023:
James Tollack
left a message on March 7, 2023:
As one of Eddy’s best friends as teenagers, Norm was extremely patient of me constantly hanging at the house. He was a great big brother, though Eddy would never admit to it! My deepest condolences - Renee and Jim
Shawn Merritt
left a message on March 7, 2023:
I first met Norm when I was about 9 years old. As my mother tells it, our initial encounter may have been the evening of Wendy and Norm’s first date. Suffice it to say, I was an awkward little kid who approached new people with a degree of skepticism. This was not the case with Norm, as I liked him immediately. He was the kind of guy you could like immediately. I did not know Norm well, but to know he was a good person did not require that kind of intimacy. The decency of his character was readily apparent to even casual observers.
My deepest sympathies to Wendy, Nathaniel, Paige, Tara and Dylan.
Patrick Harding
left a message on March 7, 2023:
Any words that I could offer would fall far short of describing the character and friendliness that Norm demonstrated in the short time we knew each other. My deepest sympathies to the O’Neil family. You will all be in my prayers. Norm will definitely be missed.
Kevin & Rene Murray
left a message on March 7, 2023:
Our sincere condolences to Wendy & the entire O'Neil family. A tragic loss to you all and to anyone who knew Norm. May your good memories comfort you at this saddest of times. May Norm Rest in Peace with the Lord.
Greg Shepherd
left a message on March 7, 2023:
To O'Neil Family -
Ann & I send our deepest condolences with Norm's passing. Personally, I will missing the way he lights up a room when he enters, and always smiling. He was dedicated, loyal, wonderful man who would you any help you needed. I miss him as the Church of the Holy Family Bazaar Parking Chair, humor and dedication at HNS Meeting, HNS Casino Night and HNS Mercy House. Rest in Peace Norm.
John W. Sherman Sr.
left a message on March 7, 2023:
I worked with Norm out of SP Endwell for a short period of time before I was transferred and he was one of the best ! As the years went by and I retired I saw him several times and we talked about “the old days”! He was one of most respectful and respected individuals I have ever had the pleasure to meet and work with! He will be dearly missed ! Until we meet again Norm ! Save some golf balls for me!
Love, Ron and Diana Lussi
left a message on March 7, 2023:
Terry Stroh
left a message on March 7, 2023:
So very sad to hear of the passing of Norm. He was a wonderful person who always has a smile on his face and he will be greatly missed at our Friday ex-trooper luncheons. May he rest in peace.
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John Tynan
left a message on March 23, 2023:
To Wendy and family, Mrs O and Maureen - extending my sincere condolences on the loss of Norm. It was an idyllic time spending my first 14 years of life growing up on Manhattan Drive. I have vivid memories of many wiffle ball games, street hockey, basketball and baseball games at Highland Park , home made mini bikes and of course long summer days at the "neighborhood" pool! I have 5 big brothers but I considered Norm to be one as well. He was kind and funny and I will always remember both he and Eddie fondly. Wishing you strength and God's peace in this time of loss.
David Lee
left a message on March 16, 2023:
Please except my condolences. I knew Norm from fishing on Lake Ontario. He was a gentleman and true sportsman in every sense of the word.
David Lee
Michael Kaminsky
left a message on March 12, 2023:
Norm was one of my best friends and fishing and golfing buddies. 3/3/23 was the worst day of my life, with all my heart I wish I could change the outcome of that day. My wife Shelly and I want to extend are most sincere and deepest condolences to all of Norms family, extended family and many, many, friends. We will miss him dearly, but he will always be in our thoughts, prayers and memory. RIP my friend!
Mark J Flint
left a message on March 10, 2023:
Marilyn Karlson
left a message on March 10, 2023:
I’m sorry for your loss. Norman was in my ninth grade math class. He was always polite, respectful , and pleasant. He had a great sense of humor and I enjoyed having him in my class. MK
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
Larissa Warholic and Family
left a message on March 10, 2023:
Michael & Karen Hastings
left a message on March 10, 2023:
Norm was a gift to all who had the honor of meeting him. From the minute you met him you knew that he was a man to be respected and trusted. The longer you knew him, the more that respect and trust grew. Your family's loss is unfathomable but one which we all share with you.
Frank R. Spendley
left a message on March 10, 2023:
Dear Pat, Wendy, Maureen and families: Our prayer, as we all mourn Norm's passing into New Life, is that the solace, abiding in Faith, will relieve your deep sorrow with the passing time. Then you will fully realize your boundless gratitude for Norm's lasting presence in your lives. G.K. Chesterton reminds us that, "Thanks is the highest form of thought, and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder."
We all can agree that Norm has earned that. Love, Frank Spendleyand all the Vermont Cousins
Anonymous
left a message on March 10, 2023:
Mark & Betty Jane Whiting
left a message on March 10, 2023:
We first met Norm when we were building our house next to his on Jade Drive in 2000.
He was always there to help out in anyway possible, especially if it meant using his snow blower.
He had a big heart for everyone. We don't remember ever hearing a single harsh word (even when he couldn't get the lawnmower started). If there was any problem, the conversation would end with: "It's all good."
We only wish we had more time . We will miss him dearly.
Mark & Betty Jane Whiting
Rod Cole
left a message on March 10, 2023:
May God comfort the O’Neil family, all of Norm’s friends and acquaintances as they heal from their tragic loss!!! I will never forget all of the times Norm had lent me a helping hand, not asking for anything in return!! He will, definitely, be missed!!
-Rod Cole
Pat, Gary, Christopher and Daniel Winn
left a message on March 10, 2023:
Sierra Lieback
left a message on March 9, 2023:
Saverio Longobardo
left a message on March 9, 2023:
The world lost a great man, son, husand, father and friend. Our hearts are broken... Sending all of our love. He will be truly missed.
Aunt Cathy, Tammy, Saverio & Saverio
Anonymous
left a message on March 9, 2023:
Anonymous
left a message on March 9, 2023:
Paul and Sarah Hoban
left a message on March 9, 2023:
Anonymous
left a message on March 9, 2023:
Sam McNeil and Jennie Oestreich
left a message on March 9, 2023:
From the very short time we knew Norm we became aware of how great of a man he was. He helped create a beautiful loving family and we will never forget his kindness. Our thoughts are with your family as you grieve this unimaginable loss. Remember that you are all loved by many. Take comfort in your memories of him as you go through this difficult time.
Sam McNeil and Jennie Oestreich
left a message on March 9, 2023:
From the very short time we knew Norm we became aware of how great of a man he was. He helped create a beautiful loving family and we will never forget his kindness. Our thoughts are with your family as you grieve this unimaginable loss. Remember that you are all loved by many. Take comfort in your memories of him as you go through this difficult time.
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
The Love family
left a message on March 9, 2023:
William H Standinger
left a message on March 9, 2023:
First to Norm's family, I am deeply sorry for your loss and I pray that the Lord gives you comfort as you deal with your grief.
I had the privilege of knowing Norm and working with him frequently over the years i was with NYSP. His sense of humor was amazing and it was always welcome!! I always enjoyed the time we were able to "do the right thing" when it was time to do it. No doubt he has been welcomed to the better place he is now at. May he forever rest in peace...William H Standinger III (retired NYSP 2011)
Christina Tucker
left a message on March 9, 2023:
Norm was my Senior Man back in '94. He was an amazing teacher, mentor and human being. He loved his family, friends and community so much. He would wave at everyone and taught me to do so. He will surely be missed...My condolences to his family.
Accede Mold & Tool
left a message on March 9, 2023:
Robert Pierce
left a message on March 9, 2023:
It’s with great sadness, that We learned of
Norm's passing. He was Truly a great man.
Our prayers are with Wendy and family.
Rp
Amanda Rose
left a message on March 9, 2023:
I think anyone who knew Norm, has a Norm Story.
As my last name would suggest, I am of the extended Rose family Norm worked for before going into law enforcement (Uncle Todd is…my uncle). He’s always been woven into the family fabric. So much so that I asked my father (Toby) the other day “how did Norm get in?” He’s just always been there. At high school and college graduations. Popping in at a family gathering. Inviting us over to watch the fireworks on the Fourth of July.
I now live in North Carolina and began traveling up to NY to visit my grandmother when she could no longer reliably travel south. The first time I made the trip, Gram called Norm (She actually called him Stormin’ Norman but I digress) and asked him if he would check with the state troopers in North Carolina, Virginia, West Virginia, Maryland, Pennsylvania, and New York to make sure that a) there was no weather I’d run into and b) no accidents. Norm agreed and called her back 20 minutes later. All was clear on the eastern front. Gram thanked him and awaited my arrival. I didn’t know about this until I’d pulled up to Nichols Notch. Gram seemed unphased at the lengths Norm went to to make sure I was going to be ok and to assuage any fears Gram might’ve had. “That’s just Norm.”
I’ve spoken with my cousins and uncle and parents over the last week and each one of them has had a “That’s just Norm” story.
He was a genuinely good person. Thoughtful and kind. He will be missed by my branch of the Rose tree and every other person Norm ever met.
Our deepest condolences to you, Wendy and kiddos.
Alicia, Nicole and Families
left a message on March 8, 2023:
Ronald Kavulich
left a message on March 8, 2023:
Norm worked for as a Trooper. He was a very dedicated person. He had that ability to relax a stressful situation with his ever present smile. He was not only a co worker but a friend. Prayers for you and family.
The Tynan Clan
left a message on March 8, 2023:
James Tollack
left a message on March 7, 2023:
As one of Eddy’s best friends as teenagers, Norm was extremely patient of me constantly hanging at the house. He was a great big brother, though Eddy would never admit to it! My deepest condolences - Renee and Jim
Shawn Merritt
left a message on March 7, 2023:
I first met Norm when I was about 9 years old. As my mother tells it, our initial encounter may have been the evening of Wendy and Norm’s first date. Suffice it to say, I was an awkward little kid who approached new people with a degree of skepticism. This was not the case with Norm, as I liked him immediately. He was the kind of guy you could like immediately. I did not know Norm well, but to know he was a good person did not require that kind of intimacy. The decency of his character was readily apparent to even casual observers.
My deepest sympathies to Wendy, Nathaniel, Paige, Tara and Dylan.
Patrick Harding
left a message on March 7, 2023:
Any words that I could offer would fall far short of describing the character and friendliness that Norm demonstrated in the short time we knew each other. My deepest sympathies to the O’Neil family. You will all be in my prayers. Norm will definitely be missed.
Kevin & Rene Murray
left a message on March 7, 2023:
Our sincere condolences to Wendy & the entire O'Neil family. A tragic loss to you all and to anyone who knew Norm. May your good memories comfort you at this saddest of times. May Norm Rest in Peace with the Lord.
Greg Shepherd
left a message on March 7, 2023:
To O'Neil Family -
Ann & I send our deepest condolences with Norm's passing. Personally, I will missing the way he lights up a room when he enters, and always smiling. He was dedicated, loyal, wonderful man who would you any help you needed. I miss him as the Church of the Holy Family Bazaar Parking Chair, humor and dedication at HNS Meeting, HNS Casino Night and HNS Mercy House. Rest in Peace Norm.
John W. Sherman Sr.
left a message on March 7, 2023:
I worked with Norm out of SP Endwell for a short period of time before I was transferred and he was one of the best ! As the years went by and I retired I saw him several times and we talked about “the old days”! He was one of most respectful and respected individuals I have ever had the pleasure to meet and work with! He will be dearly missed ! Until we meet again Norm ! Save some golf balls for me!
Love, Ron and Diana Lussi
left a message on March 7, 2023:
Terry Stroh
left a message on March 7, 2023:
So very sad to hear of the passing of Norm. He was a wonderful person who always has a smile on his face and he will be greatly missed at our Friday ex-trooper luncheons. May he rest in peace.
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